If you want better sex, you need to start talking about it! As we start a new year, I try to encourage my clients to explore how to make their relationships more pleasurable - in and out of the bedroom!

Instead of focusing on if you’re having ENOUGH sex, try to consider whether or not you’re experiencing enough pleasure and connection with your partners.

Have you ever wished you had closer relationships? I’m not just talking about romantic relationships, but also friendships, family relationships, and even acquaintance-level relationships that have the potential to grow deeper.

The disappearance and later discovered death of Gabby Petito along with the speculation that her now missing boyfriend could have been the culprit has caused many to offer this advice: Trust your gut. If you think something’s off about a person, it probably is.

If you’ve ever called in sick, travelled across the country, or driven further over the speed limit than you’d like to admit in order to spend more time with your partner, then you know exactly how true this is. When you’re in love, it can feel like all the time in the world with your partner is never enough.

Few things in the early stages of a new relationship cause more anxiety than texting. Most Millennials and Gen Z-ers are all too familiar with questions like, “When should I text them back?” “Am I overdoing it?” “Should I wait to respond because they took forever?” “How many emojis is too many?”

You’ve heard it all before: “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” “Beauty is only skin deep.” “Love is blind.” But you’ve also been bombarded with the opposite: romantic comedies casting near-perfect looking actors, Cinderella winning the heart of the prince while her “ugly stepsisters” pined for him fruitlessly. Advertisements featuring stereotypically attractive partners leaving Kay Jewelers hand in diamond-clad hand.

“You always want what you can’t have.”

It’s a saying as old as time- one that most people can, in one way or another, relate to, especially when it comes to romance. Whether it shows up in the form of a crush on your boss, pining after someone who’s already married, or falling for a local while vacationing in a foreign country, there’s something about loving a person you know you can’t be with that feels more intoxicating than other, more realistic relationships.

No matter how compatible two people are, the defining quality of romantic relationships is almost always attraction. Attraction is what initially draws two people together. It’s what sparks interest and creates sexual chemistry. Without it, two people who otherwise get along very well might as well be friends or roommates.